Married AND Free

I’m lucky in the sense that I never observed any controlling behavior in my parents’ marriage. I never heard “ Where were you, Are you wearing that, You shouldn’t have bought that” etc.  I didn’t grow up with the whole the man is the head of the household and the woman is a subordinate mentality. … Read more

Dodging Bullets

Between the end of my long term relationship and my move to Austin I began talking to a guy. Let’s call him Mr N.  I wasn’t really interested in a relationship, more just peeking my head out a little bit. He was in a Facebook group that I was active in that discussed issues facing … Read more


Up until my mid 30’s all of my sexual experiences were with people I was in committed relationships with, except for one passionate island fling while studying abroad in college. My friends were going through various stages of thier sexual exploration and while I could listen in non-judgement and enjoy the tea I could never … Read more

I’m an average dancer.

Yep. In terms of technique I am quite mediocre. Middle of the pack. Less than outstanding. And I’ve known this for quite some time and I am very proud of the fact that it never stopped me from pursuing the art form that I feel I was born to do. I got the earliest inkling … Read more


This was one of those pivotal moments I thought only happened in books or movies. An exact moment in time where you can pinpoint when something changed, when you knew that you would never look at things the same way. When I opened up that cabinet under the sink and saw boxes and boxes of … Read more

Fuck your Woo Woo’s

Maybe it was my fault for thinking I could just treat dance as some side hobby , something to do just for fun. After all I had bombed my audition at the University of the Arts in Philadelphia, so maybe a career in dance wasn’t on my horizon. When I got accepted to Virginia State … Read more

The Fear of Powerful Women

What is it about a woman knowing exactly what she wants that terrifies and disgusts the masses? Maybe it’s the fact that you cannot shame a woman who own everything about herself. You can’t weaponize the truth against her. You can’t get her to see herself as anything less than who she is because your … Read more

Everything I know about men…

… I learned in the strip club: Lessons in Dating Strip clubs can be fun and magical places. The combination of women, music and alcohol make for a highly sexualized fantasy world in which both men and women can get their needs met. The exchange of currency for titillating entertainment and attention are the same everywhere … Read more

The Cruise Of Lies

Let me tell you about the Cruise of Lies.   This photo was taken on our first family cruise(which would become an annual tradition). I had made the decision to divorce my husband. My daughter was 3 years old.   A few weeks earlier I had gotten the call that set everything in motion. A … Read more